Stay curious about her
over time.
People change. Understanding your partner is an ongoing practice, not a box you checked years ago. About Her is a small, structured place to keep what you learn — and a weekly nudge to ask the next question.
About Her organises what you know about your partner into eleven dimensions — from how she feels loved, to what she’s carrying right now, to the small daily routines you can consistently get right. Each one has a notes field and a curated library of questions worth asking out loud.
On the Home screen, an “Ask Her” card surfaces one question from the dimension you’ve touched least recently. No streaks, no scores — just a gentle weekly nudge to stay interested.
Eleven dimensions
The things long-term partners forget to keep asking about.
How she feels loved
Words, touch, acts of service, time, gifts — which actually lands.
When she's upset
Does she want to be heard, or helped?
What she's carrying
What's weighing on her, and how stress shows up in her.
Her dreams
What she's working toward; what she set aside.
Old wounds
Formative experiences and tender spots; why some things land harder.
Conflict + repair
How she handles conflict; what helps her feel reconnected afterward.
Tender spots
Where reassurance helps; what not to poke in a joke or argument.
Her own life
Friendships, hobbies, solitude — the parts of her not about the marriage.
Being appreciated
What she actually notices — not appreciation in the abstract.
Health + body
What she's managing in her body; what she's sensitive about.
Daily small things
Coffee, mornings, the small routines you can consistently get right.
Your notes stay on your phone.
Everything you write in About Her is stored locally by default. Nothing leaves your device unless you turn on Insights Sync in Settings — and even then it only travels between your own devices, encrypted in transit, stored on our EU server. No third party ever sees it. We don’t run analytics. We don’t train models on it.
Turning Insights Sync off triggers an immediate delete of every note we hold for you. This is the same opt-in, purge-on-disable pattern we use for cycle data — see the privacy policy for the full picture.
Get the app.
About Her ships in v1.3 on iOS and Android.
Local-first. No ads. Your data stays yours.